10 WAYS on how to pick the perfect sperm donor

Whether you think this is morally right or not, I do not care. The truth we cannot deny however is that most ladies of late are opting to become single mothers. I am not addressing those who are forced into single motherhood due to reasons like dishing their cookie to every man welding an erect dick, or as a result of divorce they did not anticipate, etc. But those who make informed decision to be single mothers. They go ahead and pick a man to sire for them a kid or several, then go ahead to live as a single mother family. So how do you ensure you pick the right man?

Below are 10 key things to consider when picking the right man, this is according to me but ladies are different.

ONE: PICK SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOUR AGE

Remember you are going to get intimate, and no need taking a 90 years old frail man to sire for you when you are just 25! How does it feel having sex with a wrinkled man anyway? It is not just making a baby but enjoying the process. Besides, at one time you might want to show the child his own real father and trust me, it is better someone he can associate with as a father not as an ancestor!

TWO: PICK A TESTED AND TRIED MAN

You are not about to be a specimen for some lab, so why bother picking someone who is not a father already? Pick someone who you know has already fathered. Male infertility is real, and no need to stress yourself guessing who might be the reason why you have been having sex over a year and not getting pregnant. If you can, pick someone who has fathered as recently as possible; that is a sure bet. But if you wish, you can pick someone with bigger children who you already have seen and evaluated, but that can be determined as we shall see in another point below.

THREE: PICK SOMEONE PHYSICALLY FIT

Yes, you can nullify having seen his kid by evaluating him and determine he is fit. There is a trick here. Do not assume heavily muscular man is very fit. Muscles are artificial and manmade. Determine his fitness by evaluating his health e.g. how often does he get sick, his physical symmetry, smoothness of his skin, etc. you can even ask a few questions to trick him to know if he has any hereditary diseases. Ask him how long his grandparents lived and if over 70 then that is a good bet.

FOUR: PICK SOMEONE CLOSE TO YOUR NATURAL SIZE

You do not want to get children who you cannot associate with comfortably due to huge variance in size. Remember, chances are they shall associate themselves closer to you if they are almost your size but if you are 5 feet tall and end up with all children 6 and above feet tall, questions will arise that you will feel embarrassed to answer.

FIVE: PICK SOMEONE INTELLIGENT

This is tricky since most people associate Degrees to PHD with intelligence, that is absolutely wrong. We have people who barely made it past class 8 who are super intelligent and that is evident with how they have been able to survive, build a name for themselves in the society. Evaluate someone’s ability to reason logically and survive in this world minus the artificial degrees flying all over owned by dumb people.

SIX: PICK SOMEONE WHO DOES NOT SMOKE OR CONSUME ALCOHOL

These two degrades a man’s sperm qualities and poor sperm morphology is to blame for miscarriages, deformities, low sperm count is also evident among men who smoke and consume alcohol. Remember you want a sure bet not guess work!

Also, men who smoke smell bad, men who consume alcohol have inclination towards undesirable behaviors including womanizing and you do not want such offspring!

SEVEN: PICK SOMEONE WITH POTENTIAL TO BECOME A GOOD FATHER

This is a tricky one. Whether you want to believe in this or not, you had better pick someone who can act as a fall back plan family way. Someone who can back you up and take those children as his own. Someone who can become a father with pride and dignity. Many ladies are to blame for picking social misfits who sire for them thugs and rapists who end up soiling the name of single motherhood. Also remember the children might want to know their father and if you do not feel proud to show them their real father then chances are you picked the wrong man.

The man should have the potential to even marry you!

EIGHT: DO NOT PICK A DEAD BEAT

The worst mistake you can do is to pick someone who sires children all over like a mating dog. Yes, play boys have some allure that attracts women to them and end up siring numerous children but that is absolutely the worst choice to pick for yourself.

Dead beats also go bragging about the children they sire, and are potential for dramas in future since most end up regretting what they were doing and in their regret cause a lot of emotional agony to the women they sired with e.g. demanding to be given the children yet you so well know he has no interest to be a responsible father; he just wants children to brag for.

NINE: PICK SOMEONE YOU CAN TRUST

You are about to get sexually intimate with someone. You do not want someone who will bring an STD or HIV to you.

Also, basic trust is such that when perhaps you succeed in getting the child and at times you feel like you want to talk to someone over basic child support issues, having a man you can trust is very essential. Blood is thicker than water and an honest opinion concerning the child from his biological father might go a long way to help you.

TEN: BE CONSISTENT WITH YOUR CHOICE

The worst thing is to pick a Luo for first born, a Somali for second born, an Indian for third born etc. That is sheer irresponsibility. Even If you pick different fathers do not be so wild and reckless.

In fact, intelligent women pick one man consistently to father their children. This way, even the children shall grow feeling comfortable around each other, and that shall make you proud of your choice in the future.

At times, it is impossible to pick one man consistently for various reasons, but your next man should at least match the above 9 points. E.g. if you pick someone close to your natural size and semblance, then the child can always think she resembles you even if she resembles her father.

Women are increasingly choosing to become single mothers and it is a fact we have to accept. It does not have to agree with your moral inclinations but it is happening.

I guess the challenge now is up to men to try and remain relevant to women.

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